It is not that they do not appreciate what you do for them. They just can't remember you did it or what was done. It is very challenging when your many contributions go unnoticed. In life, we are so conscious of reward and gratitude. It doesn't mean we are selfish or shallow. It is just how most of life works. It is so natural to say, "She won't know anyway." With the Alzheimer's/dementia experiencer, the majority of what you do will never be recognized, but I believe that energy is not wasted. The act of doing is transforming.
I definitely want to buy a copy, Heather and Eric! Having had a mother who had years of slow decline into Alzheimer's, Jim would get much from it, too.
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